Of course, people in Flurry’s cult take a certain amount of responsibility for what happens to them, since every other COG group knows Gerald R. Flurry is dangerous and unless someone had the misfortune of being born into the church, one has to work really hard to become a member. Of course, responsibility falls upon Flurry and his goons for taking advantage of and micromanaging the lives of these brainwashed sheep clamoring for a taste of his special “truth.” That doesn’t erase how horrible and sad the deaths and persecutions of these people are, since it affects more than just individual COG members. Families and entire communities outside the cult’s borders are victimized by medieval and insane cult practices enforced by Flurry’s minions.
I live in El Salvador, Central America. I joined Philadelphia Church of God in 2011. My son was 19 and my daughter was 17. We were fascinated with Bible studies and prophecy, as we had a background of 20 years in another Worldwide Church of God splinter, United Church of God. Basically both of my children were borne there.
The first time we met with Alex Harrison he said to my children that they would be put out of the Philadelphia Church of God if they ever dated someone outside. So they were obedient. Then Harrison wanted my children to cut off all their friends and acquaintances out there. My daughter was shocked as she had very good and decent girlfriends in school. But both followed the instructions to unfriend the ones from UCG from Facebook.
In the beginning of 2013, both my children were thinking to get baptized, but then my daughter and I started to have fights due to one of her “worldly” friends. We never ever had such horrible fights in the past. My son was thinking to join AC (Armstrong College), as he had received a personal invitation from Gerald Flurry, but now I think God intervened to prevent him to go.
After the FOT (Fiesta de los Tabernáculos) in 2013, my son told me he was in love with a school friend and that he knew the rules, so he was stopping PCG attendance.
Then on Nov, 2013, Alex Harrison called me and told me to put my son out of the house. A young, respectful and helpful son of 22. Someone whose sin was just being in love.
I began a spiral of anxiousness and sadness. I could not understand why I should put my son out of my house and stop any contact with him. (Gerald Flurry’s no-contact policy) Being a single mother is not easy and having such a son was an immense blessing. I spent around two weeks without sleeping very well. The first two nights were awful, I only could sleep two hours. Depression could have taken me to my death.
I first tried to look to the “loving brethren” for consolation, but I just got cruel criticism and accusations from them.
One man accused me of having my children as my idols and that by leaving my son at home I was allowing a “bad spirit.” A lady, someone to whom I considered “my best friend” in PCG, accused my son to be “Laodicean” with an insulting tone. I felt so sad. She was very caring and loving while being in UCG. But she became so self-righteous. My son is not baptized and such absurd policy excludes spouses and non-baptized children.
But that was their “loving” response upon me in desperately looking for consolation from them. Bad decision. After this incident, my “best friend” did not even want to say hello and would avoid my eye contact on the “merely holy” Sabbath day. I then wrote her and this man an email saying they owed me an apology and that we should fix our differences, but I got more attacks in response, full of pride and self-righteousness.
They spoke with Alex Harrison. And guess what he did? He just took the side of them. He never wanted to hear my side.
Of course, there were three against me. My “best friend,” this man, and another lady who is full of hypocrisy as she has contact with several people in other “Laodicean” groups, and she’s been living with her “Laodicean” daughter since she joined PCG in 2010 (though they said she recently moved). She is someone who would even label these ministers and this doctrine as “perverted,” but is clever enough to appear as a godly lady.
During my conversation with Alex Harrison, he said to me, “All of the brethren in the San Salvador congregation are happy” as I had stopped the attendance, due to so much friction with my “loving” brethren. His intention was to purposely hurt me, and he accomplished his objective. If he were loving and compassionate–a true Christian–he would have never told me that, even if it was true (but he was lying). I tried not to even think of having resentment at that very moment, it was too much for my mind. I had really loved these ministers.
He even brought to the conversation an off topic: The causes of my divorce. I got divorced due to the alcoholism of my husband and subsequent adultery. Alex Harrison said to me (screaming), “I am pretty sure your husband became alcoholic because of you, you are a troublemaker and you are not converted.” I was shocked by that time; I did not know how to react, I did not know if I had to smile or cry.
When I told my children about that, my son said he would have stopped this minister ipso facto if he were present in that conversation. He said, “Mom, that minister is so abusive! How can he dare to give an opinion on a story he does not know? We are the only ones who know the story very well, even my father has accepted before us that he became alcoholic at the age of 14 and that he hurt you, destroying your marriage.”
But we all knew who gave to him this idea: the hypocritical lady who would all the time criticize me and everything around me (I knew all this due to the other two rascals). She would criticize and have an opinionated view of my divorce, so she “imagined” my husband was not the problem, but me. I wonder if she remembers how her adultery caused her own divorce. My “ex-best friend” (now her best friend) told me such history. I never knew it before.
I cried inconsolably, How can a “pastor” treat a sheep like that? I even visited a physician. I was very depressed for several days.
My last call was to a family that I thought was close to me, one that was not involved in the problem. I asked the father, “Did you tell Alex Harrison that you are happy that I am not attending??” He said he did not. I believed him. But he was so blinded and said, “You probably misunderstood him.” That is when I realized the level of mind control this particular “church” has. They make people think they are unquestionable.
But God was merciful. I called one of my loyal friends, someone who was not attending any group anymore, very respected and knowledgeable in the Bible.
He immediately called me and warned me to not do such a horrible thing to one of the most amazing young men he had ever met. He was someone who had known my son his whole life since he was a baby. He witnessed how I raised him up and how well disciplined, respectful and a good son he was to me. He was upset and said, “Please do not ever think to do that to your son. He is a honorable young man and a wonderful son to you!”
All was like a wake-up call. I prayed and finally decided to stop attending PCG. It’s been 8 months now, and my family is back to peace. We do not attend any other group, but we keep communication with some of them.
I literally was in tears when I read about the death of Janet De Gennaro. Her parents are in my prayers, please let them know a sister in faith from Latin America area has them in her mind and wishes to give them a hug.